Well, another V-Day is in the books.  How was yours?  Was it full of romance and heart eyes?  Was it a let-down?  Or was it just another day?

I meant to write this post last week, when Valentine's Day was still fresh in my mind.  But life got the better of me, as tends to happen.  A little reflection won't hurt anyone, even if it is a week late, right?

One of my Facebook friends posted a pic of her with her hubbie on V-Day and said something to the effect of, "You young kids think Valentine's Day is just a way for businesses to make money--more power to you.  But you're missing out on all the fun!"  And really, I agree with her!

Certainly it is a very commercial holiday.  Chocolates, cards, candy, dinner reservations, long lines, outrageous flower prices...I get it.  But what we know about marriage (or any relationship for that matter) is that for things to go really well, we have to be intentional.  We have to plan. We need to go out of our way to love each other, or risk drifting into apathy.  If you've ever read a blog about marriage, you'll see that common wisdom for couples is to plan moments of intimacy.  Schedule it.  (I know it sounds terribly unspontaneous and not like the movies at all!) But being married isn't usually like our favorite rom-com.  That dreaded (or favorite) February 14th date is a good reminder for us all to take a day to make our loved one feel loved!  And if you're really anti-Valentine's Day, use the day as a reminder to schedule something special for the week after!  

So, if you spent a great night out last week or had a romantic date at home after the kids went down, two thumbs up!  And if you turned up your nose at the high prices and hype, that's okay too.  But consider this your invitation to plan something soon...those times when we truly put thought into our relationship and pour love into our spouse will reap great marital benefits!

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