Dinner and a movie...

Dinner and a movie...

Dinner, skip the movie we're too tired...

Sound familiar?  

 

If you're like us, you might be in a romantic rut...a date drought...a love lull... (I could go on with these, but I'll spare you.)  Let me be clear, the love isn't lost, but our creativity when it comes to dating is a little lacking these days.  Date nights are important to me.  They help restore my soul and our connection to each other after days or weeks of parenting and working and managing a household.  But I find that after a long week, when everyone is tired and all we want is some time to ourselves, it's all we can do to muster enough energy to drive to the restaurant and back.  

I am generally a creative person and I thrive on change, newness, and excitement.  I also find comfort in routine, but sometimes that comfort borders on laziness.  Lately, I've been feeling like everything is a never-ending exercise in monotony.  We do the same things day in and day out and then wake up and do them all over again!  Our date nights are no different.  

Then, I had an idea!  What if we planned dates in advance?  What if we thought about some ideas beforehand, so that all we had to do was just go do something we had already thought about.  And the Date Project was born...

Last weekend, Mike and I went out on a very standard date.  We went to dinner and a movie (shocking, I know.)  But while we were waiting for our table, we took the time to get out a notebook and make two lists.  One list was activities we want to try together.  The other list was local restaurants that we would like to check out.  We thought of as many different ideas as we could--some pretty basic, and others more exciting or adventurous.  Most of the ideas are things we've never tried, but a few are old favorites that we want to make sure to remember.  Some activities we would be able to do at the spur of the moment, and some will require at least a small amount of planning.  As we talked, the idea unfolded.  We are going to hang our date night ideas up in our house, and on every OTHER date night, we will choose an activity and a restaurant from our "Date Night Bucket List."  This will allow us to return to the comfort of familiarity frequently enough that we won't be exhausted, but still allowing for some adventure and new fun to filter in.  We will make sure that on alternating date nights (every other date), we are allowing proper time for planning and preparation.  But it won't be so daunting because we will have a pre-made list of ideas right in front of us!

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Now it's your turn!  Do you need a little date-night makeover?  Take our Date Project challenge! Set aside one night this month for you and your spouse to make your Date Night bucket list! Bring your favorite pens and your creativity and get writing.  Then, take a photo of your list and post it on our Facebook page (facebook.com/jeffcityme), or tag us on Instagram (@marriageencounterjeffcity).  Or post it and use the hashtag #dateproject.  Then take things one step further...post a picture when you actually pull off a Date Project date!  I can't wait to see all the creative ideas everyone has!  We'll be playing along, too...posting our date night experiences as well as creative ideas and resources to keep your dates fun and fresh!

Happy dating!

 

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